Self-talk – having good thoughts
Self-talk can have a really great impact on your self-esteem and confidence. There is positive and negative self-talk, and they both have impact on how you feel.
Positive self-talk tends to make you feel good, whereas negative self-talk often makes you feel ordinary. There are a few ways you can develop better self-talk, including just listening to what you are saying to yourself each day. It’s worth practicing self-talk - as feeling good about yourself is worth the effort.
Self-talk is basically your inner voice: the voice in your mind that says the things you don’t might not say out loud. Often, self-talk happens without you even realizing it and can be a subtle running commentary going on in the background of your mind.
Ways we can help our kids develop better self-talk. Get them to:
- Listen to what you are saying to yourself – we don’t always consciously take note of what we are saying in our minds. The first step in improving your self-talk is to actually notice what your inner voice is saying. Take some time each day to listen, and even write down, what you’re thinking.
- Monitor your self-talk – Is your self-talk positive or negative? Start questioning your self-talk with things like:
- Is there a more positive way at looking at this?
- Am I keeping everything in perspective?
- Can I do anything to change what I’m feeling bad about?
- Change your self-talk – This is easier said than done, but definitely worth working on. Try by countering your negative thoughts with positive ones. For example, if you think “I’ll never be able to do this”, ask yourself “is there anything I can do that will help me be able to do this?”
The more you work on improving your self-talk, the better you will get. By working on getting more positive self-talk, you’re more likely to get things done and feel more in control of different aspects of your life.